There seems to be more and more anti-Valentine’s Day backlash every year by the single community, to the point of calling it “Singles Awareness Day.” With this being my first single Valentine’s Day in seven years (and only the second in the past 12 years) I think I am in a bit of a unique position to see things from a very different perspective.
Yes, Valentine’s Day reeks of commercialism and it puts a lot of people on the spot who normally wouldn’t want to do the things that Valentine’s Day requires. Some people hate to spend money on anyone but themselves. Some people hate to spend money.
But you know what’s worse than spending Valentine’s Day single? Spending Valentine’s Day in a relationship with someone who hates you and that you hate in return.
Imagine being in an unhappy relationship when V-Day rolls around. Imagine that no matter what you do, it’s wrong and unappreciated. Of course, you get used to that when everything you do every day is wrong and unappreciated, but it has a little extra sting on Valentine’s Day. Add the requisite complaining and that makes for a great holiday.
Naturally, the perfect Valentine’s Day would be spent with someone you love who loves you in return, and those of us who are single won’t have that. But spending the day and night alone is a lot better than some of the other options, and I say that from experience.
Take my advice, and be happy if you’re single on Valentine’s Day. It’s not perfect, but it’s not the worst situation you could find yourself in. Appreciate yourself and be glad there’s no one around to ruin February 14th for you, year in and year out. If you’re legitimately happy being single, be your own Valentine. If you’re miserable being single, quit complaining about it and do something about it. Meet someone. Fall in love.
But if you’re like me, and you’re just happy to be alive and you’re happy for those who are in love and have someone to share their lives with, and your previous personal experiences with Valentine’s Day are best left forgotten, don’t take away anyone else’s enjoyment of the day. I’ll take single V-Day over miserable V-Day every single year.