There seems to be an epidemic spreading throughout social media today, and its just an overwhelming amount of whining and complaining and moaning. Everyone is unhappy or heartbroken or depressed or forgotten. Well, here’s the deal, kids. Unless you have a chemical imbalance or legitimate psychotic depression, there is something you can do about it. And yes, it is as simple as just BEING HAPPY.
First, take stock of why you are feeling the way you are. Someone has done something to you, has hurt you in some way or another. It could be a friendship ending over a difference of opinion or a relationship coming to an end or an argument with a family member. Whatever the reason, understand that its trivial at best and no reason to spend the day on Facebook telling everyone how unhappy you are.
Second, remember the person you were before this situation happened. Think about the things you enjoyed doing. Are you doing them now, or are you sitting in a chair with a tear in your eye, sighing “woe is me” and feeling sorry for yourself? And maybe, as I have witnessed in a few instances, becoming angry because no one else is feeling sorry for you? Do you think any of that is helping your situation at all?
You were a person before you became a depressed bowl of mushy feelings. You went places and did things and had hobbies and none of those things involved sitting around whining and trying to get attention on social media. Are you hoping the person who has wronged you will see it and see the error of their ways? Don’t count on it. Especially if it was an angry friendship or relationship breakup, I promise you the other person not only doesn’t care what you are doing, but is actively avoiding you.
I know this from experience, because I actively avoid people that have been eliminated from my life, whether relationship or friendship. I don’t care where they are or what they are doing. I also don’t spend my life looking up somber Facebook posts. I would rather spend my days watching baseball and posting fun posts for my friends to enjoy. I would rather spread a little smile than another repetitive frown.
Maybe its the time of year, people tend to be more miserable in the winter, cabin fever and that kind of thing but at least in my area of the country, that shouldn’t be an issue, we haven’t had enough snow this year to bother calling it winter.
Understand that life is going to be different going forward. Whatever has caused you to feel the way you do, accept that its gone, and you’ve taken the first step to feeling better about the situation. If you have lost a friend or lost a significant other, the first thing to do is eliminate their presence. For example, I “cleansed” my Facebook page of photos, check-ins, posts and anything else that I found that reminded me of people that I did not want to be associated with. Deleted and eliminated.
Out of sight, out of mind. And it works. Then you can start focusing on you and pursue the facets of life that make you happy, without anything bogging you down.
Now, I’m not saying put it in the back of your mind and grind on it daily, that doesn’t help. I am saying eliminate anything that reminds you of the situation you are trying to get away from. Yes, you can do it. Nothing is so important that you can’t let go of it. Especially if it makes you unhappy. Why hold onto something, and sit and think about something that makes you unhappy or angry?
I think the term “depression” is the most overused and undervalued term used today. Anyone who wakes up on the wrong side of the bed or has an off-day where they just don’t feel as happy as they should, feel “depressed.” No. Sometimes people have a bad day, or they’re sad for one reason or another. That is not depression. That is the normal range of human emotion and the arrow is pointing down at that particular time. It’s like confusing “sleep” with “death.” Sad and depressed are not the same thing.
In closing, I want to say something that I know pisses a lot of people off, but turn that frown upside down. Instead of sitting on Facebook posting those ridiculous depression pieces, put the phone down and go for a drive, or do something constructive. And get rid of whatever it is that makes you act like your world ended, because it didn’t. The sun will rise tomorrow and so will you. And the further you get from what ails you, or bothers you, the better you will feel. Time really does heal all wounds.
Be happy. It IS just a matter of telling yourself you will be, and making a few minor adjustments in your life. And its worth it. I can testify to that. Once you eliminate the misery and embrace the happiness that life has to offer, you win.
Go for it. You have absolutely nothing to lose and everything to gain.